The state is undesirable for me, statists would say that they defend the state because it protects them from criminals, for me there is no difference between state violence and criminal violence.
I agree, I am opposed to all oppressive relations, and statist ones are always oppressive. I see no reason to pay taxes, I don't care about schools (I will never have children), roads (I can live without them), hospitals (I can learn other healing skills), as an example. I see no reason in patriotism, I will not die for abstract "nation". And so on.
If we idealize an utopia, why the state is even needed?